There is a very common reason that people do not visit or call others who are in pain: they simply don’t what what to say…And so often we choose not to call, not to visit. Our culture doesn’t know what what to do with silence. Silence frightens us. It unveils an intensity that we are not used to facing…If we can get over our fear of silence, if we can learn to embrace it, we will soon come to see that silence is where God lives